Beyond My Control: Forbidden Fantasies in an Uncensored Age | Date: 28 April 2011, 06:44
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Beyond My Control: Forbidden Fantasies in an Uncensored Age
By Nancy Friday
* Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.
* Number Of Pages: 288
* Publication Date: 2009-04-07
* ISBN-10 / ASIN: 1402218540
* ISBN-13 / EAN: 9781402218545
Product Description:
The bestselling author of My Secret Garden exposes the wild and sexy fantasies that many of us have but are afraid to share.
For over thirty years, Nancy Friday has written about eros, love, beauty, and seduction. Now she returns to the territory she pioneered during the sexual revolution—exploring our most taboo sexual desires. In a contemporary world where women are formidable partners in the erotic dance and no topic seems out of bounds, Friday breaks into a still-forbidden world of lust, power, and pleasure.
Collecting fantasies from dozens of women and, for the fi rst time, men, Friday explores the wildest corners of our imagination. Beyond My Control: Forbidden Fantasies in an Uncensored Age shows that our fantasies are not compensation for a "missing" sex life but are a critical component of our fullest selves, the secret desires that yearn to soar.
Praise for Nancy Friday
"YOU'LL BLUSH, YOUR PULSE WILL RACE."
New York Times
"Delicious... women can share in their sisters' secrets and not feel that they are alone."
Los Angeles Times
"Nancy Friday's work... demonstrate[s] beyond doubt that the emancipation of women's bodies begins with the emancipation of our minds."
Faye Wattleton, former president, Planned Parenthood Federation of America (20090315)
Summary: A Fascinating Probe into Our New Sexuality
Rating: 5
As a psychiatrist, I found Nancy Friday's latest book, BEYOND MY CONTROL, to be an eye opening study of how advancements of women's equality, gay rights, and the sexual revolution from the 1960's has affected our sexual fantasies. The fantasies, though often erotic, are an inside look into the mind of the individual, their motivations, and a new attitude of openness in a quickly changing time. Particularly interesting to me were the internet entries showing the ease in which our once forbidden desire are now readily shared and acted out. Nancy Friday's thoughtful take on the affect of ease in which we can navigate a new sexual world is intelligent, insightful, thought provoking and filled with humor. It is a great entry to a life of study on the subject.
Summary: Friday has lost it
Rating: 1
Unlike her early books, this Nancy Friday book is terrible. She's discovered Craigslist, but unfortunately hasn't discovered that most of the dating ads there are come-ons for porno sites. She repeatedly quotes Craigslist ads as if they were real.
The sexual fantasies here are rather boring, too.
If you want something like this, buy one of her early books, or an older Black Lace novel from Virgin.
Summary: Interesting!
Rating: 4
In 1973 author Nancy Friday launched her best-selling book My Secret Garden: Woman's Sexual Fantasies that comprised a compilation of female sexual fantasies collected through, letters and taped personal interviews. The book refuted many previously accepted beliefs pertaining to women's sexual fantasies and it revealed that these erotic reveries were not only restricted to men but women likewise enjoyed and experienced them.
Friday has now come up with an up-dated and perhaps more daring version of her initial foray into topics that would have been considered forbidden territory not very long ago. She returns to an area without boundaries exploring our most taboo sexual desires.
Over the years, sexual fantasies have proven to be an important study topic, as they are known to provide a positive or negative experience, even both. They may reflect past experiences and even influence future sexual encounters. Quite interesting, prior to the twentieth century, many experts felt that sexual fantasy (particularly in females) were abnormal. Even Freud believed that experiecing sexual fantasies meant you were sexually deprived or frustrated or that you lacked adequate sexual stimulation and satisfaction.
Beyond My Control: Forbidden Fantasies in an Uncensored Age includes both female and male fantasies, and, as we read, there are numerous variables that influence sexual fantasy. Examining some of these fantasies, we notice how their content and goal vary greatly between individuals and how they are subject to personal desires. The fantasies range from the mundane to the bizarre. In fact, in certain instances you may also notice that they are used to escape real-life sexual restraints particularly when the confessor describes dangerous or illegal scenarios.
I have to admit that Friday's approach is quite venturesome exploring topics that at one time were considered evil or sinful as masturbation, incest, domination, exhibitionism, voyeurism, S&M, threesomes, and living out fantasies. The language of many of the letters is raw, as contributors describe lewd, obscene and sensuous scenes. And, if you are not into reading erotica, you probably won't appreciate this book. In fact, many of the confessions are quite similar to the vivid and graphic letters you would find published in such magazines as Playboy.
Upon reading Beyond My Control: Forbidden Fantasies many of us may wonder just how powerful are sexual fantasies and are they really beneficial in enhancing sexual feelings, relationships or are they the last resort of the lonely and desperate? Moreover, should we keep our fantasies private or should we share them with others?
According to Friday, she believes that "accepting our erotic reveries opens a new consciousness in our lives. We don't have to act on the fantasies to feel this way. Some fully realized would become nightmares." I question, however, who would want to share our most secret thoughts and feelings with a total stranger? It is true, as Friday states, that we have lowered our limits on what is sexually doable and that we live with less prudery and Puritanism that have helped us become an age of instant gratification, but where do we draw the line.
Norm Goldman, Publisher & Editor Bookpleasures
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